my aunt has the beginning stages of demtia but is in denial her attorney I hired for her is telling me to cease and desist. I am power of attorney and healthcare proxy and my aunt is acting with memory issues and now saying things untrue, Her attorney is supporting her knowing my aunt has the stages of dementia but is taking a different position . My hands are tied and I am not sure what to do. Can I have my aunt looked at from a judge point of view and how can I fire her attorney, Her aides are stealing from her and she told me one of them is touching her in ways that is not right. Please someone help me,
One thing that makes it very difficult is when they think something needs repair. My mother has been stuck on the idea that the floors need fixing and wants to call the foundation people. That one gets a firm no. The floors are fine and we don't want to spend a lot of money fixing something that is not broke.
What is it that you want to do that requires you to have a higher level of control?
Is your aunt calling the attorney ?
Who hired her aides - and are they from an agency? Have you verified her items have been stolen ?
Depending on the stage of dementia many folks go for years accusing others of stealing and bad behavior so it's important to understand her actions are not unusual -
Since your aunt trusted you to be her POA, have you been with her to her doctor ?
It is a process but your aunt may need to see a specialist
t imagine and she closed out our checking account that I was on to help her. she is vicioius she is not good person and I really wish someone can get me legal advice. She vasilates back and forth with me christmas she was normal after I bought her a handbag. her aides are stealing from her and they love the fact that we are not on good terms. They are getting 10k per month and my aunt does not have that much money. I told her to get a live in but she refuses. she won't shower she is not able to walk chair bound and bed bound. she is impossible and now we do not talk. her lawyer is a bad person to go against me. I am my aunts only living relative. everyone is dead. I don't know what to do. I wish I can declare her incompetent she lets the aides write their paychecks. she cannot see or write or walk. and she is losing her mind. sorry I am going on and on I am just losing my mind over this and I am terribly hurt. I will never help her again but I know I need to do something before she runs out of her money. she is 75 and is like a vegetable also she is in denial
Perhaps, you need to consult with your own lawyer to see where you stand and what rights and obligations you have at this point.
Who hired the aides, her or you? If they come from an agency, can you put in a complaint?
You say your aunt says one of the aides is touching her inappropriately. Hm, really? And what is she saying about you? If you do make any complaints, stick to facts you can verify.