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I have tried prayer and meditation, exercise, reading. Massage helps but it is $$$. No one helps me with my dad and I thank God he is not an angry dementia victim. Has anyone found anything really special that works?
I get massages from students at our local junior college in their massage therapy program. It's cheaper than normal (about half the cost of a regular massage) and I enjoy helping students practice their massage skills. The other nice thing is they can't accept tips, since they're not yet licensed. Which is even better!! :)
The biggest thing I've found is exercise that is fun and physically exhausting. For me, that's pickleball. I've met a ton of nice people (mostly women). There's a sports camaraderie with us and I love the friendly competition. When I'm done playing, I feel joyful. That's a feeling that had escaped me for years. This has enabled me to rediscover my "inner athlete" which is spiritually satisfying and emotionally calming. So keep experimenting with different modalities until something clicks. Hugs...
For me? It's cooking and my home. #1 -- The cooking part is sooo ironic. I have a taste disorder and inability to taste foods. I taste very sweet -- and spicy. We eat a lot of spaghetti, chili, and sweet/sour foods at our house. I should buy stock in the company that makes Sriracha sauce. Mom, who's lived with us for a year, is restricted to a very low-salt diet. So the challenge is, make it taste good, even though I can't taste it -- without much salt -- three meals a day. Bliss, I tell you!!
#2 -- my home. Yesterday, I cleaned the fridge (one of those fancy French Door ones with the pull-out freezer and large pull-out drawers. Then I fled into the bathroom and cleaned out all of the cabinets. Yesterday was bliss!! Today it's my closet/clothes; next week it's re-organizing mom's room with some new Container Store shelving; after that, it's organizing the attached garage.
Then I have some baseboards to paint. A corner cabinet of treasures to sparklify. A will to update. I have POA's for myself to place at my financial institutions. Mom's house sale. Her bills and ours to pay. Oh, my God! The list is endless. And I love every one of my chores . . . or . . . I don't do them. ;)
I'm a bloom-where-you're-planted kind of gal. Obviously! Others might say, "Maggie!!!! Get.A.Life!!!!" But for me, it works.
Even this site (which I just recently found) contributes to my peace of mind. Keeping my brain busy is essential to my well-being. If I don't have something concrete to "chew on" -- I'll chew on "Poor Little Old Me" candy and drive myself insane.
To sum it up, we all have our own bliss . . . the place(s) we can go in our heads that bring us peace. Maybe it's gardening, cooking, internet forums, cleaning, organizing, writing short stories about our lives, refinishing furniture, planning a garage sale, reading, poking around online, sewing, crafting. OMG!! So much to do, so little time. ;)
When I can't travel, I love watching Rick Steve's travel videos and seeing places that I've never thought of! I also find books on CD to be a good way to feel like I'm accomplishing something on long drives to and from mom's NH (90 minutes each way when there is no traffic). I "treat" myself to an hour's worth of browsing at Goodwill each week; it's truly amazing the little things I find there and how happy finding a great book for a buck, a neat CD for $2 or a dress for $5 make me feel. And this going to sound a little nuts, but I gave blood last weekend and that made me feel spectacular!
Ugh I had a whole answer typed and hit some combo of keys and lost it. Second time I've done that today. :(
Pickleball is like tennis for old people. It's played on a smaller court with paddles and balls with holes (like wiffle balls) and a low net like tennis. Usually you play doubles, so less running around. A lot of former tennis or racquetball players switch to pickleball. I regularly play with two 80 year olds and one 86-year old women! I also play with a lot of folks with new knees or hips.
It's fun and competitive and a great way to meet people and get some exercise. The Villages in FL have 100 pickleball courts and there are lines at 8 AM to start playing. Park districts offer classes and open play time for people over 40 or 50. Check it out if you're looking for a super fun way to get some exercise!
I read alot, and used to watch alot of DVDs Now I am just happy to go to the rec room and watch ONE !!! I watch all the TV shows I missed, and historical mini series.. this is my escape!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The biggest thing I've found is exercise that is fun and physically exhausting. For me, that's pickleball. I've met a ton of nice people (mostly women). There's a sports camaraderie with us and I love the friendly competition. When I'm done playing, I feel joyful. That's a feeling that had escaped me for years. This has enabled me to rediscover my "inner athlete" which is spiritually satisfying and emotionally calming. So keep experimenting with different modalities until something clicks. Hugs...
#2 -- my home. Yesterday, I cleaned the fridge (one of those fancy French Door ones with the pull-out freezer and large pull-out drawers. Then I fled into the bathroom and cleaned out all of the cabinets. Yesterday was bliss!! Today it's my closet/clothes; next week it's re-organizing mom's room with some new Container Store shelving; after that, it's organizing the attached garage.
Then I have some baseboards to paint. A corner cabinet of treasures to sparklify. A will to update. I have POA's for myself to place at my financial institutions. Mom's house sale. Her bills and ours to pay. Oh, my God! The list is endless. And I love every one of my chores . . . or . . . I don't do them. ;)
I'm a bloom-where-you're-planted kind of gal. Obviously! Others might say, "Maggie!!!! Get.A.Life!!!!" But for me, it works.
Even this site (which I just recently found) contributes to my peace of mind. Keeping my brain busy is essential to my well-being. If I don't have something concrete to "chew on" -- I'll chew on "Poor Little Old Me" candy and drive myself insane.
To sum it up, we all have our own bliss . . . the place(s) we can go in our heads that bring us peace. Maybe it's gardening, cooking, internet forums, cleaning, organizing, writing short stories about our lives, refinishing furniture, planning a garage sale, reading, poking around online, sewing, crafting. OMG!! So much to do, so little time. ;)
Keep searching until you find yours.
Pickleball is like tennis for old people. It's played on a smaller court with paddles and balls with holes (like wiffle balls) and a low net like tennis. Usually you play doubles, so less running around. A lot of former tennis or racquetball players switch to pickleball. I regularly play with two 80 year olds and one 86-year old women! I also play with a lot of folks with new knees or hips.
It's fun and competitive and a great way to meet people and get some exercise. The Villages in FL have 100 pickleball courts and there are lines at 8 AM to start playing. Park districts offer classes and open play time for people over 40 or 50. Check it out if you're looking for a super fun way to get some exercise!