My mother is not happy at the nursing home; and I think she might be happier at home. I'd bring in someone during the day when I work; during the evening, I would be able to care for her. I have past nursing experience. My husband would be able to assist with hoyer lift and we would adapt our bathroom on the same level to have one of the baths with the chair lift. Would I be required to have 24 hour nursing care in home?
Is your mother's paralysis the after effect of stroke? If she has now had as much rehab as is going to help, and nothing is being done for her at the nursing home that you can't provide at home equally well, then it may well be true that she will benefit from both home surroundings and one-to-one care; but don't expect her to appear either grateful or more cheerful because she's still paralysed and, if she's experiencing depression, will still be depressed.
It's good that you are planning to call all hands to the pumps, so to speak. I think you may possibly be underestimating the amount of help you will need - a second caregiver at strategic intervals, for example - and I am pretty sure, because I certainly did, that you will not yet appreciate quite how draining the 24/7 responsibility and broken nights and late hours will be.
But to answer the actual question, yes it's doable. Would you like to say a little more about your mother's principal needs and history?
Think long and hard before bringing someone with so many physical deficits into your home. It will cost a lot to move things around so you can have a Hoyer lift and hospital bed and all the accompanying gear. To remodel a bathroom so it's "compatible" is going to cost about $10,000--at minimum. Have you ever bathed someone who is unable to help you bathe them? THAT alone is incredibly hard.
It sounds all very tidy: We'll get day care and then you'll take care of her at night.
More likely, you'll get day care and calls all day long about this or that--or mom won't be happy all alone with one caregiver--plus the PT and OT people who will be coming & going--all while you're at work. Actually the day care aides will be more like 10 hrs per day---very expensive--and you'll have to vet them and make sure they get along with mom and you are comfortable having them there. This alone is HUGE.
More info on your mom's health would help. Is she permanently paralysed or maybe this it temporary?
Think long and hard before making this transition. It may be what you think you want--and it is sweet and kind of you to want what's best for mom---but she may already BE where it's best for her.
I think there was some exaggeration as to the process of modifying the bathroom... Ours was no where near $10,000.
We do not need a hoyer. My mom is only 5'2" and is now down to 80lbs (she started at 120). I have always been alone to lift her. It is challenging now that her legs have contractions but she is pretty tiny.
Nights are okay... If mom is awake, I stay in her room on a small recliner.
It can work but be sure to think it through for the long haul. It will be tough on mom to come home and then have you decide it is just too much. Be sure your husband and family are willing to pitch in. I am blessed with a husband that just thinks this is what you should do, and I have extremely supportive children (as are their spouses and children). We have had mom 24/7 for about 3 years now and had her part time prior to that.