Brother had POA for Mom. Our parents revoked it in 2008. Dad died in 2009. Brother began using it again. Technicality - the revocation was not filed with the county. However, a lot of circumstantial info leads me to believe he stole a large sum of investments. Right after Dad died - bro (all 3 of my sibs actually) all made major large purchase that had not been able to afford previously. Now 2 1/2 years later. All 3 are retiring and making major purchases again. The timing is suspicious. But also there had been some rearranging of accounts in 2007 (which my parents asked my brother to return and he refused) when my sibs were trying to force our parents out of their home. I was in grad school out of state at the time. After graduation, I returned to hometown and began caring for our parents and still am 24/7 for Mom who has dementia. Animosity between parents and siblings began in 2007 and escalated in 2008. None of my siblings (nor the grandkids) see Mom - nor have since 2008. Also, in 2009 I got full powers of attorney for MOm so that is resolved, But it took a few weeks after Dad died, and it appears bro stole a lot in that time. Where do I go for help? Atty General cannot help without proof. Adult Protective Services in this city is not of much help. Police cannot help without more evidence. How can I find out?
I agree, it's not a simple issue. I am so very sorry that you have to go through this and to witness what is happening.
I also agree about getting an attorney and all the bank records, keeping a keen eye out for anything out of the ordinary. My sister often tried to say that she didn't know what a certain withdrawal that she made was for and that it must've been for dad, but it just wasn't true. Besides, anyone who has the responsibility of caring for someone else's money, is responsible for keeping good records of what they are using the money for.
Please hang in there and use the resources, like attorneys and the bank(s) as well as you can. Although it doesn't seem like it, with the right help, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it's NOT a train coming at you. Have been there and am so glad to see it all behind us.
Try to take care of yourself as best you can through this very difficult time.
Hugs,
Helen