He has been away for a year. Now he want POA back and is trying to take over her care. My other sibling and I took over her care needs when he left. Got the legal paper work poa etc. He can be manipulative my mother to give him money and is now threatening to have the POA revoked by taking her to another attorney. We do not get along at all. I don't know how to talk to mom about him. Even when I have pointed out the financial abuse she refuses to see any wrong doing with him. What can I do?
I would also keep all documentation you've collected and document from memory all that you've done so you can present it in court. I assume this is a criminal charge?
I do agree that it's time to just step back and wash your hands of the situation as you're being opposed by both your mother and brother. Let him take care of her. And don't be tempted or bullied into stepping back into the situation if she runs out of money and wants help from you.
You should also tell the police, or the PPO staff when you go to them for assistance with getting a PPO, that your mother doesn't understand the gravity of the situation and that's why you're acting on her behalf, pursuant to authority granted under the DPOA appointing you and your other sibling.
Be sure to bring the DPOA with you when you visit the courthouse or wherever the police tell you to go to get a PPO.
The county sheriff or police, depending on protocol in your mother's area, will take care of serving your brother.
You'll need to have documentation supporting any fraud allegations though.
If he's investigated and charged with a misdemeanor or felony financial abuse, you can use that against him when the PPO expires (might be a year or two; I don't recall which and it may be dependent on the state).