Hi- my mother has dementia . My brother lives in the Family home. My mother is in a care home. She is 100 in July this year. I have no access to the family home . My brother has refused me entry. He claims he has Power of Attorney! This is inconvenient as when I visit my mother I I have to stay in a hotel. I live in London. My mother in West Yorks
Kind Regards,
There is always the possibility that something is wrong, but there is also the possibility that the person (parent in this case) is being protected from backlash. The executor/POA will have enough to deal with either way, but the will maker needs protection.
Old Bob1936, I'm with you on the dementia concern, if it is significant/advanced. I understand mild dementia may not be an issue. Either way, in the situation I mentioned, the person is still quite clear minded, intelligent, and capable of making informed choices.
But in any case, what has that to do with where you stay when you go to visit your mother? If you are finding it difficult to stay near her care home, try asking the staff if they have a guest room you could book for a nominal fee - many care homes do, especially those in remote locations, and even if they haven't they might still be able to suggest a good nearby B&B.
You should be able to ascertain whether or not your brother has a registered Enduring or Lasting Power of Attorney through the Office of the Public Guardian. If he has, I am surprised that you were not among the "People To Be Informed" listed on the EPA or LPA documentation - but try the OPG first and see what they say.
What is the history behind your brother's apparent animosity, do you mind my asking?
If Mother's house had been sold to pay for her care, you would have to find a room to visit her, wouldn't you? Surely you are not saying that you'd only visit her if you get a free and convenient place to stay?
Grace + Peace.
Bob
1). Bro won't let sis see will. Solution: The will is none of the poster's business until the person dies;
2). Bro won't allow poster to stay in parent's home when visiting. Solution: The house is the brother's home, and he has control over who he wants in his home, regardless of who owns it. Posted should have spent more time working on relationship with bro; he might have been more willing to allow poster to stay in his home!
Bottom line: Poster has no recourse and has no reason for recourse. It's not about any of the "missing parts of the story".