Has anyone come across the same as me my bro is rich and has put our mother in a house he bought? Looks good but no it's only power. And his family bullies me which has caused me much stress.
I went to s/services
But what a shock I got they are so impressed with my brother he's rich and becouse my mum lives in this wonderful house they don't see
She needs anything els
They have a visitors book mi don't write in it any more becouse they just write out I have been its a nightmare I beleve I'm dealing with sociopaths I feel like never going again mum as alzihmers it's killing me
The idea that your mother lives alone there but you are prevented from visiting her is confusing me. Could you explain this a little more?
8/28/16 6:52 AM
I'm sorry that you're still upset about your mother's situation. I'm sorry that you didn't find the social workers very helpful.
To explain: from Social Services' point of view, your mother living in a comfortable house and having her material needs met is important. That doesn't mean that nothing else matters, but it does tick the main boxes.
If you are finding the level of conflict with your brother's family hard to manage, could somebody perhaps go with you when you visit your mother? I don't mean anyone who's going to pick a fight with them on your behalf; but what about a relative that you all get on with, or a reliable friend?
But the operative word there is 'unreasonably.' For example, it is not unreasonable to turn away visitors who arrive unannounced at inconvenient times; or who are difficult or argumentative or disruptive to your mother's routine; or who persist in bringing in items that it is not advisable for her to have, such as sweets or snacks if she's diabetic, alcohol if it's not recommended for her, that kind of thing.
I'm not for a moment suggesting that you are doing any of these things, mind. But those would be the kinds of reasons that caregivers under stress might not welcome visitors.
Why not ask a social worker to go with you on a visit, and see if you can't clear the air a bit? You want to visit your mother, and I'm sure your mother would like to see you. Having an independent, experienced person with you might make it easier to get past any problems with your brother's family.
I suspect you don't want to hear this, but wouldn't it be better for your mental (and probably physical) health to accept the situation?
Rather than fight a losing battle, please consider the possibility of surrender. Then you can just enjoy whatever time you have to visit your mother. That can't be good for either of you to focus so intensely on the negatives.
Good luck and God bless.
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My mus hates living there and is getting worse she as no friends
There turned away
Yes nice house and home comforts are nice but don't you think there's other more I portent things like NOT stoping them she loves from visiting and allowing her friends in
The book my brother put there I won't write in it again becouse they scrub me out
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