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Brother made sudden visit from out of town. Mom called late last night to say they were lost and would get a hotel room. She has no meds and just the clothes on her back. I've been calling her all afternoon with no answer but her phone battery is probably uncharged. Brother not answering anyone's texts. Brother going through crisis - financial, relationship, etc - and said wanted to talk to Mom.

Mom has high blood pressure and is stroke survivor. Takes meds morning and evening for thyroid and blood pressure. Has vision and balance issues. Goes NOWHERE alone. Needs arm to lean on. Also, is very cold here today (FL) and she isn't dressed warm enough. I am concerned for her safety and health.

My siblings and I are giving it until evening before we completely panic. Suggestions?

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My husband went home and Mom is home and okay. I'll talk to her soon - on my way home now. I have been worried for 4 hours.
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You are in Florida it is pretty close to evening. Is mom mentally competent? I would call the police, its been close to 24 hours. They may not do anything until 48 hours. Tell police of potential risk to her without meds and see what they might do. Was brother driving his own car or renting one? Police will need that information.
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Good News! Let brother know that he needs to keep in better contact. And I would not let him take mom to dinner alone again.
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My first instinct was to ask if brother wanted mother on her own so he could extract money. is she still in control of her own money? If you have financial POA can you check with the bank to see if a large amount was withdrawn. Just in case she gets lost again have her carry a tiny pill box in her purse with a couple of days meds in it. Always a good idea for anyone in case a disaster happens when they are away from home.
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The cops can track him via his cellphone or hers. If he crosses the state line, you get the FBI involved.
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Call the police immediately. Assuming no foul play on his side, maybe they were in an accident, maybe he had a Herat attack and she became confused.
You cannot take an elderly person out without there medications for an extended period. I hope bro is stable, even if dealing with a crisis
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Thank God! Don't let that happen again..
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Who is the Guardian?
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His girlfriend rented the car last week for him. Then they broke up over weekend. I am waiting for my husband to see if she is home and just napping and doesn't hear her phone. Wish he would hurry. I am picturing all sorts of scenarios. Nothing like this has ever happened.
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Mom's phone battery was low because she always charges it overnight and could not charge it when they got the hotel room. But she did get offended that I was so upset - said she didn't know I was trying to reach her and why am I mad about it. After we both calmed down, I explained to her that I was worried because I love her and want her to be safe and we have to all be more aware and communicate in the future.

This was truly the tables turned and me the parent and her the child, chafing at having to report back, not being able to just do what she wants however she wants. It probably touches on a thornier issue, too, regarding my brother's behavior, which can be erratic, and my distrust of him. And my siblings' distrust of him. I had a brother and brother-in-law living two hours away ready to come looking for them. My husband was right, we should have told him at 9 pm that they could not go out to dinner, it was late and everyone needed sleep.

Glad this episode ended well but I am certainly prepared for it if it happens again. And I'm glad I had this forum for support. Thank you.
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