They are in good health right now. My mother doesn't want to but my father does.They are living in a one floor condo now. At my brothers house the only privacy they would have will be their bedroom. My brother still has 2 children at home, 18 and 12. They are also grandparents and their daughter visits with her 3 children. My mother doesn't want to hurt her daughter in law's feelings. My father really wants to move in with them. What is your opinion?
Talk to mom, "what does she want?". Are parents willing to prepare a long term plan should circumstances change?
Would everyone consider a 90 day trial period, where parents keep their house, but live at brothers full time for 90 days and see how it all works out and if whole family is still happy including the grandchildren.
Will parents contribute to the expenses? What if one or the other gets sick?
What will be your roll and expectations? When brother gets transferred or tires of caring for parents after a few years, does he expect you to take them in?
Just some thoughts.
In my situation, parents and children need their own space. If parents can afford and are still able to manage themselves, would they consider downsizing to a condo or apt on one floor and just living nearby brother so they can get assistance they need, visit as often as they like, but not be too cozy under the same roof.
Will they sell the condo and the contents?