I live closest to Mom. One sibling is out of state. Other hour away. I get no pay to help. They do/did. I have full time care. Mom lives alone. She puts guilt on me constantly. I cannot make her younger or healthy or less lonely. She is constantly depressed. I provide trips to drs., hairdresser, and make grocery runs. Mom pays for one sibling to come to town to do maintenance jobs. Other sibling was paid when Mom stayed with her for a period of time. I have lined up a reliable lady to take her to appts. etc. while I am in the south with my husband this winter. Already Mom is starting to make comments about how much she's going to have to pay her. Mom does not want to go to Assisted Living. I feel that she only wants me there to handle all of the problems, maintenance, etc. I cannot do everything she wants me to. My husband helps out tremendously but he also is stressed now. My being burned out is an understatement. Mom is and has been an unpleasant person. I am trying to justify how much of my life should be spent on her care and emotional state. Any suggestions?
If she outlived you, where is she going to go then?