Another bad spell with my mom -- this time she forgot she made a doctor's appointment 6 months ago, and she called and left two long, hateful messages for me thinking that I made the appointment, when I hadn't.
She ranted and raged, telling me she went in February and June for med refills and all kinds of other details that had nothing to do with any of this, telling me I was selfish, I hated her, and so on.
I talked to her briefly and it was all craziness, to keep it short. This is just one of many problems I've had with her, but I've decided to call Adult Protective Services and file a report.
What can I expect after I make that call? I've never gone through this before.
I'm thinking APS because in Michigan they are supposed to help -- according to the website I checked -- for neglect, abuse and for when an individual cannot care for him or herself. My mom sort of fits the latter.
As for mood meds, she is on xanax and antidepressants but I don't think it's doing much for her. My mother refuses to do nothing more than get checkups to keep her in xanax and blood pressure pills. No neurologist and no heart specialist or anything that might help her.
I'm torn because I believe in giving some freedom, but the outbursts of anger, threats of suicide, and so on are wearing me down.
On one hand I feel I should help her the best I can, and on the other hand I feel like I should just step back and keep out of her life for a while. It's to the point where I can't even pay her a visit without accusations flaring up, so it's not like she's happy to see me.
If she is just driving YOU nuts, and a danger to your sanity they may not feel they can do anything though. Sorry you are going through this.