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Didn't understand that your father has already passed. I am sorry for this loss. It is too late now to care about the rightness or wrongness of it all, I am afraid. I assume your Uncle is also the Trustee or the Executor of the estate? I believe as an executor settles an estate it is generally done with a separate account, so that isn't something you would see as to monies going in and paid out to medicaid, to creditors, etc. If your Uncle is the executor he would do well to be honest, breaking the law would have repercussions. If he is the executor and you are a BENEFICIARY of the estate, then by law there are certain things he must do about letting you know in a timely manner, and that is all under state law. If there is a will it will have to be filed. If a Trust it works differently. I suspect there is nothing we on the forum could help you with. Sorry for your loss and wishing you good luck moving forward. Family trauma is always very difficult. To my mind it is best to move away from it all as quickly as possible for your own good, and for your own peace of mind. If there is anything to handle allow a Lawyer to advise you or to handle it.
I would need more of an explanation of why this is happening. What does your Uncle, who I assume is your Dad's POA by your Dad's request, feel that you should not visit at this time? Has something happened during a visit that either Hospice, your Dad or your Uncle found disturbing? You are correct that it is quite unusual for a child to be banned from seeing a parent without very good reason. I am curious what they tell you the reason is.
Hospice just said that’s was how it was going to be. My uncle with POA hates me. He also moved my dad to nursing home and removed over 100k worth of equipment and sold it. Told us that it was for his medical care. Money was never deposited into my dads account that POA used to pay for medical care. He just kept it all. Says he doesn’t have to provide anything to us on where it went.
Just said that how it was going to moving forward. Dad died 4 days later. He also removed anything from house of value including the safe and furniture. He Sold or kept for himself (not sure what he did with money) a 35k truck, 20k car, tractor, 2 ATVs. He said sold equipment for money for medical care, but it was never deposited into dads account which already had 150k in it. They Essentially looted the house. He had both types of POA and executor of will. However day after he died turned over trust company for probate.
He had cashed in approximately 55k in investment accounts in the months leading up to this my dads death as well. The kicker was the POA’s wife(dads sister) was made the beneficiary on the bank account right before the her husband became POA. So they knew they would get the money. Money was gone day after dad passed. Trustee company was forced to use assets from the will to pay all bills etc.
Also tried to sell house but dad passed too quickly
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I assume your Uncle is also the Trustee or the Executor of the estate? I believe as an executor settles an estate it is generally done with a separate account, so that isn't something you would see as to monies going in and paid out to medicaid, to creditors, etc.
If your Uncle is the executor he would do well to be honest, breaking the law would have repercussions. If he is the executor and you are a BENEFICIARY of the estate, then by law there are certain things he must do about letting you know in a timely manner, and that is all under state law. If there is a will it will have to be filed. If a Trust it works differently.
I suspect there is nothing we on the forum could help you with. Sorry for your loss and wishing you good luck moving forward. Family trauma is always very difficult. To my mind it is best to move away from it all as quickly as possible for your own good, and for your own peace of mind. If there is anything to handle allow a Lawyer to advise you or to handle it.
You are correct that it is quite unusual for a child to be banned from seeing a parent without very good reason. I am curious what they tell you the reason is.
He had cashed in approximately 55k in investment accounts in the months leading up to this my dads death as well. The kicker was the POA’s wife(dads sister) was made the beneficiary on the bank account right before the her husband became POA. So they knew they would get the money. Money was gone day after dad passed. Trustee company was forced to use assets from the will to pay all bills etc.
Also tried to sell house but dad passed too quickly