A very good friend of mine, whom we have known and basically call our grandma for almost 8 years now, has gone into a memory care facility, and her one and only son who is the POA has decided suddenly that I can no longer visit her, (he’s let me for the last 5 years) giving no explanation at all, other than having the caregiver at the facility tell me that I could no longer come to visit her (who puts that burden on someone else?) I’ve tried to reach him by phone, text, through his wife, with n0 reply. You would think that being in the care system, it would be nice to have your friends visit you, I just feel like he’s punishing us both. I’m so confused and don’t understand why? It is extremely upsetting! Is this legal?
It is possible that after your visits she would become upset. (unbeknownst to you)
If this is the case and it would take the staff a while to calm her down they may have said something.
It is also possible that she has said she does not want visitors.
It is possible that she has declined to the point where she does not recognize anyone.
You can..
Write her a letter.
You can send flowers.
As difficult as it is accept the fact that this woman is no longer part of your life.