My grandmother has a distant cousin who she has been very close with for many years and who has dementia and is in a care facility. This woman has a daughter who has power of attorney over her and has instructed the facility to not allow her partner of 32 years and my grandmother to see her. Apparently the daughter has some bad feelings towards this woman's partner because she divorced her father for him many years ago. Why she doesn't want my grandmother to see her I have no idea. Unfortunately the woman and her partner were never married, but have been together for 32 years. They have been very close to my grandmother and grandfather for many years. My grandfather passed away recently and the facility told my grandmother not to tell her about it and she hasn't, but would like to visit her. This situation has been very hard on everyone involved except the daughter who has power of attorney and who was never very close with her mother. Any information on what could be done if possible would be kindly appreciated. Thank you.
BUT, having said that? The lovely nursing home she was in wasn't designed like a prison. You came in, signed in at the front door and went on your merry way. Frankly, I don't see how they could enforce it.
Just go visit. See if they really stop you. It's one thing for Ms Bossy Pants to tell you that. It's another for the NH to enforce it.
Good luck. Who would EVER want to keep a friendly visitor from their loved one in a NH? Sounds like a real piece of work.