I want to help him, but he's abusive. I am POA for my elderly father. He is living in an assisted living facility in Pennsylvania. I live in NYC. His home is in a reverse mortgage and I am in the process of cleaning it out and returning it to the bank. He wants to move back home but he is unable to take care of himself. He's 85. He has dementia and is under the care of a geriatric psychiatrist. He is verbally abusive to me. Can he revoke the POA? His threat. I don't mind doing the paperwork, bill pay, talking to doctors, etc. But his abuse is horrific. Just want to know if he can actually revoke the POA given these conditions. Wouldn't he need a laywer to do so? And can he do so with the dementia? Thanks a lot.
Sounds like your POA is in his long term memory...
I think he would have to revoke you through court,
which unlike the ordinary POA which just has to be signed by a notary,
since he probably is incompetent.
We always here that competency can be re-determined but Alz is pretty permanent.
You do know these days that disabled people have a right to stay in their own home,
and as long as they still own their own home, and only have SS, they can qualify for home caretakers.
He is still alive, his possessions are still his, is he being included in your need to clean the place out for the bank?
I am unsure of reverse mortgages, it would depend on how much he has left,
after paying for Assisted Living, commercials tell you that the house it still yours,
and will be yours, until you die.
Our 86 year old was almost to catatonic in AL but she is home now with her son and doing well.