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Depending on the state where you both live, you can get paid but the bigger question might be, "Should I work as my mother's caregiver?" For one, it may mean the state sees you as an employee and there is attendant records to keep and paperwork and taxes to file. For another, it is low wages with no other benefits, no matter how long you work at it. You won't have back-up when you are sick or need a vacation. Often your social life suffers and you run the risk of robbing your own future. Please read the thousands of posts on this forum about caregiver burnout and the effects it has had on peoples' lives.
If your mom cannot afford a nice facility you should consider having her apply for Medicaid. My MIL is in a very nice place on Medicaid. She gets lots of attention and does more things socially than we could ever do for her. Medically she is carefully watched. Your mom won't like it (it's a huge change at that age and with dementia) but again please read the posts about burnout). Wishing you clarity as you make this decision.
You would signing up for years of heartache, and loss of any career, when she passes in many cases the caretaker is left with nothing, no job, no housing, no money and sometimes all alone in the world, relationships burned out and health destroyed.
Perhaps you might reconsider this avenue. If she can self pay, I would look into AL, if not then see if she qualifies for Medicaid. There are many nice homes available which accept Medicaid.
Sit back and think this through, all the way to the end.
You will not pay into Social Security. You will not have employee benefits. You will not have paid holidays. You will not have overtime. You will not have worker's compensation. You will not have disability insurance. You will not have paid sick time. You will not have a lot of money. From everything I understand, it is starvation "wages".
Your question, in myriad incarnations, has been asked and answered many times. Quit your job to become a full time caregiver with eyes wide open.
Think of what will happen if you quit your job to care for her. What will happen in the long term? Eventually your mother will need placement or will pass away, and you’ll need to go back to work. Or, God forbid, you get sick and can’t care for her anymore? How will you keep your home and afford medical treatment?
If you’ve been out of work for years, it’s not likely you can pick up where you left off. You’ll be years behind, while younger people have taken your place. You could get some form of employment... but ending up back at square one when your peers are retiring is going to be a rough experience, and you may never recover the life you have now.
Look into Memory Care communities for your mother before the decision is taken out of your hands anyway. Dementia normally reaches a point where it becomes impossible for in-home care to continue because it's too dangerous and just too much for the caregiver in general. That's why MCs are popping up like flowers everywhere. You'll be without a job and have no future if you don't plan for it carefully.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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If your mom cannot afford a nice facility you should consider having her apply for Medicaid. My MIL is in a very nice place on Medicaid. She gets lots of attention and does more things socially than we could ever do for her. Medically she is carefully watched. Your mom won't like it (it's a huge change at that age and with dementia) but again please read the posts about burnout). Wishing you clarity as you make this decision.
Perhaps you might reconsider this avenue. If she can self pay, I would look into AL, if not then see if she qualifies for Medicaid. There are many nice homes available which accept Medicaid.
Sit back and think this through, all the way to the end.
You will not have employee benefits.
You will not have paid holidays.
You will not have overtime.
You will not have worker's compensation.
You will not have disability insurance.
You will not have paid sick time.
You will not have a lot of money.
From everything I understand, it is starvation "wages".
Your question, in myriad incarnations, has been asked and answered many times. Quit your job to become a full time caregiver with eyes wide open.
If you’ve been out of work for years, it’s not likely you can pick up where you left off. You’ll be years behind, while younger people have taken your place. You could get some form of employment... but ending up back at square one when your peers are retiring is going to be a rough experience, and you may never recover the life you have now.
Good luck!