My mother now lives with myself and my husband and has since last year after having a bad fall in her bath tub. I am her POA and also her Executor. I retired last November (before I planned) in order to give my Mother 24 hour care. Putting her in an assisted living home that would give her what she receives in my home would cost between $10-12 thousand a month in this area. Can I keep a record of what would be an acceptable monthly charge for her care and housing and charge it to her estate upon her death?
If mom doesn't agree you will have a difficult time getting any money after her death.
Contracts can not be retroactive so get this done now.
I didnt ask a demented old man (dad), I just did it. He KNOWS I did and he is ok with it. I also get aid to be his caregiver because Medicare pays for it. There are medicare programs that pay 1200 or more per month. I got hired on as a home health aid by some company and he is their client and I am the employee but they dont pay for beans. Call your local chapter of Care Source or Elder Care or which ever company is the liaison for Medicare in your community. Whew..I'm out of breath.....
I found out from a Medicaid representative that I am not eligible to be my mother’s paid caregiver because I am her Healthcare Proxy (unless I decline to further be her Proxy).
What I can do for her (bc she has Vascular Dementia) is interview and hire a caregiver and get it paid through the State (if and when my mom is eligible for Medicaid). This is heartbreaking for me bc I left my job last year to take care of her myself only to find out now that once my savings runs out I need to go back to work, apply her for Medicaid and “learn” to comfortable with a stranger taking care of my most precious person.
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