My mom has dementia she's diabetic and she just had a stroke 2 weeks ago.
So to start at the beginning. I quit work to help my sister with our mom. My brother passed 4 years ago and his wife passed 5 yrs before him, leaving a 10 & 11 yr. old boy and girl in my mom's legal custody. My mom has dementia & she's also a diabetic and we just got her out of the hospital because she had a stroke. My sister who is near 60 has took them all into house hold. My sister's husband is older & legally blind as well. The kids are now 13 (boy) & 14 (girl) the 14 yr old is wearing a size 20, 22 in women's clothes and wears a sz 11 in shoe. The 13 yr old is roughly 250 lbs & wears size 10 1/2 in men shoes. At one point these kids were bullying. My mom could not handled them. She was in a bad living situation & my sister has took them all in. The kids have gotten in trouble at school and to make a long story short my sister & myself are taking them to counseling sessions. My mom has dementia and her memory is going she's questioned if I am my sister or vice versa and shes had a stroke 10 days ago.
I need the income and my sister needs help .
How would I go about checking into a family caregivers check?
Your state has 4 programs through Medicaid. But you may not actually be able to be the paid caregiver. But if your mom is eligible for one of the programs, it would at least allow you to do back to work. If mom is eligible for the “personal choices” program, she can choose a caregiver who will be paid through a caregiving agency. So I would look in to that program first—just contact the Alabama department of Senior services.
If your county has a Human Resources Department call them and ask for help applying for aid.
Now for the kids. I know no one wants to do this, but the kids may be better in Foster care. Your sister is not going to be able to handle 3 teens and a disabled husband. Seems they were allowed to do and eat what they wanted. 60 year olds are not made to raise 3 children. One is enough and I only babysat.
If your sister plans on having these kids, she needs to go to court and petition for guardianship or custody. By doing this, she may be entitled to any SS the children should be getting for their support. She maybe able to get Medicaid healthcare for children. If no SS, the state may pay towards their care.
No. You cannot get paid by anyone other than your mother, and, even if you get certified as a CNA and sign on with an agency, then you may be a 1099 independent contractor have to deal with social security and medicare deductions, and federal income tax.
Please contact an elder care attorney and ask whether a Personal Services Contract is legal in your state and if it is right for your situation.
Other States will pay family caregivers only if the caregiver does not live in the same house as the person they are caring.
Medicaid home care benefits also depend on the Medicaid program in which one is enrolled.
Also note, when States set up their annual State budgets, when it comes to budge cuts, it's usually education and Medicaid benefits :(