She has taken all my moms assists sold them while she is in rehab to claim mediciaid. My mom recently fell and broke her shoulder, my sister then decided while she was in rehab to sell all her belongings and put he on medicaid. My mom who is fine now that is she is out of rehab has no where to live, no car, and my sister is forcing her to live in medicaid housing by her 4 hours away from where she originally lived. Is this legal?
Where does Medicaid come into this?
I can certainly understand your Aunt wanting to have your Grandmother someplace close as she becomes more frail. It becomes a real burden on family members to coordinate hospital care from afar. My mom used to live in IL close to her old home. When she had a stroke and it was determined that she needed NH care, we decided to move her very close to where one brother lives. It really is necessary at some point to do this, or to pay for a geriatric care manager.
Have you tried talking to your Aunt about what's going on? Has your grandmother been diagnosed with, say, mild cognitive impairment or early dementia?
It is possible - isn't it? - that your aunt was doing the best she could in difficult circumstances. Let's suppose that your grandmother had been living happily in her retirement community, liked it there, didn't want to think about having to move from it and therefore paid scant attention to how she was going to continue to fund it. She then had this nasty fall, your aunt arrives on the scene - to be fair, nobody else volunteered did they? - and finds herself with a right can of worms on her hands.
Obviously, I'm just hypothesising. But this does seem to be a case of "if you think you can do better, go to it." And certainly don't assume the worst about someone unless you have good reason to do so.
Is your aunt really the sort of person who would steal money that your grandmother had set aside for your wedding? Would you accuse her of that to her face? Because that is kind of what you're implying, and as allegations go it's a biggee.
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