before she was even put into her niche next to my dad.This was prepaid for. My dad had prepaid for everything should anything ever happen to my mom, so nothing would have to be done as far burial & funeral costs were concerned. I found out when I went to visit the cemetery, the POA "signed" my mom out & he and the executor NEVER buried her (put her ashes/Urn) into her niche next to my dad. I don't get this at all, but it does go along with all the other bad things they have managed to do. I always thought the POA's power ended when my mom died. And now he goes stealing her "ashes", too. It is bad enough he has managed to steal her belongings from her estate and her money, but now this. Advice on what to do? I do not speak with either the POA or Executor - nasty, dishonest "non-siblings".
- leaving your selfish siblings behind if that's what it takes to bring peace into your life. When you want to visit with your mother, go to a place that you and she shared together.
Secondly, you can continue to visit the cemetery. Your dad and mom have niches there and you can meditate and pray or whatever you wish, whether there are any actual ashes there or not. I like to think that their souls are already in heaven.
You are correct in thinking that POA does expire at death, but that's when the Executor function comes into play and since they are in cahoots....well, maybe you could say the Executor stole her ashes. Now that Mom and Dad are both gone, it is up to you whether to continue any relationship with your siblings. I would hope that you would be able to grieve together for her loss and put ill feelings behind you. Stuff like that just continues to eat at you if you let it.
Please find a grief support group and attend a few meetings. It might help you to join in with people in the same boat and talk out some of your feelings. I hope that you are able to find peace and acceptance. Please come back here to the forum anytime you wish, let us know how you are faring and perhaps you can help others.