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I guess the real question is, what is your uncle trying to do with the supposed PoA? Is he trying to access mom's bank accounts (he'd have to produce the document for the bank in order to do that). Is he trying to make health care decisions for her? He'd have to show it to the doctor's office in order to do that, and Mom would have to be considered too impaired by her physician to make her own decisions.
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With POA, Uncle CANNOT determine where mom lives; you have to have guardianship or conservatorship for that.
Just because someone says they have POA doesn't mean they have it. I would be asking myself why he won't show it to me if he really does have one.
If you know who mom's atty is, contact him. He won't tell you if he did one for your mom, or show it to you, but he can surely tell you hoe to get a court order forcing him to produce it.
This has been interesting to read. My brothers co-hold mother POA. Neither of them will tell any of us "girls" anything about Mother's estate. We don't care about the money, we want to know what her final funeral and burial plans are, as we will likely be the ones who have to organize and coordinate that. My dad set this up years ago and the boys act like it's a state secret. I wonder how many people go through this exact thing. I do know that she has it all pre-paid, which is nice to know, but that's ALL I know. I'm not concerned enough to go check with an attorney, but I think it's weird and wrong for all of us "girls" to not know anything.
Midkid58...yes it is "weird and wrong" for you and others to be kept out of the information loop. I have a control freak sister whom wants to rule everything in our family and keep secrets from my brother (the oldest) and me. I've finally figured out, she wants to eliminate interferance from us, especially concerning my 89 year old father. He's very healthy, lives at home, drives, mows etc. But, she is pushing my father to name her medical-POA (would be effective immediately) and a Living Will where she is named as the only person to make decisions for him (end of life). After an over zealous and manipulative approach by my sister towards my mother's health care, her final days...there is no way I want her making all the decisions or the only decisions for my father. But, it took the botched experience with, what turned out to be, my mother's final care, for me to see what was going on. (My mother, God love her, turns out, was a sacrificial lamb.) Don't want the same thing to happen with my father.
So, my advice to everyone is don't assume that your siblings/relatives are handling things correctly or fairly. Ask questions, inform yourself of the laws and legalities in your state....prepare. If somthing smells funny...it probably is. Be the advocate for your loved one.
A POA is not going to help you with this information. It just says the POA has the right to sign checks, do banking, sell the house, etc. It also does not give the person who is the POA the right to know what is in the will unless like me at the time the POA was done Mom redid her willbecause Dad had died. At the time of death, the POA is revoked and the executor takes over. Doesn't have to be one and the same. Looks like the "boys" were put in charge so u may not need to do anything. If funeral is prepaid, I would assume that your Mom told the funeral director what she wants. So sorry that you r being shut out. Doesn't seem right. I'm POA and Executor because I'm the closest.
It only bothers mw when my little brother acts kind of high and mighty about mom's affairs. When we wanted to move her from one rehab place to another, my sis and I had NO IDEA what was going on, financially. She supposedly had a long term healthcare plan that dad had paid for ages ago so she could be placed in a NICE NH if it ever comes to that. We thought after her hip surgery (she did terribly) that this was exactly what would happen. Sis and I started looking for homes for her, and finally brother states "Oh, there isn't any such policy. We cashed it out years ago"..WTH? I have seen nothing but her DNR papers, which hang prominently in her home. Neither brother will discuss anything with us. Mother also won't. I am sure when she passes there will be some anger and resentment, and it doesn't need to be that way. I have apt an executrix to my estate and all 5 kids know everything they need to know. I hate being put in the position of being a "little lady" who can't possibly understand what's going on. I don't care about what money there is..it's obvious there isn't any. One of the POAs did say "You won't be able to buy a cruddy used car with what's being left to you". My older brother (now deceased) took well over $100K from my parents when he was alive. Youngest sister took $60-75K. They're not in the will, supposedly, but I won't know until mom dies. This is just teaching me the wrong way to do things, so I won't botch it with my estate.
A learning experience huh. Same here, I have everything in one place. I have one daughter who is good with finances, she will have my POA. My other daughter is a RN and will be my medical POA. Such a shame that siblings raised together act like this.
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With POA, Uncle CANNOT determine where mom lives; you have to have guardianship or conservatorship for that.
If you know who mom's atty is, contact him. He won't tell you if he did one for your mom, or show it to you, but he can surely tell you hoe to get a court order forcing him to produce it.
So, my advice to everyone is don't assume that your siblings/relatives are handling
things correctly or fairly. Ask questions, inform yourself of the laws and legalities in your state....prepare. If somthing smells funny...it probably is. Be the advocate for your loved one.
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