Just wondering if we can request that a specific caregiver (that we don't feel does her job well and lacks common sense and is rude and talks in a condescending manner to all the patients...I could go on and on but, I won't) not be assigned to take care of my mom? We have legitimate issues with her and simply don't want her responsible for caring for my mom; of course, she would have interaction with her but just not be assigned to her. Although I don't want to alienate this CG, I don't want her caring for mom more but, I also don't want to make this situation worse for anyone. ~If anybody has any experience/knowledge in this area please share your thoughts with me. Thanks in Advance!!
FloridaGirl
My mother chronically complains about SOMEONE who's not seeing to her needs to her satisfaction. Who doesn't do things perfectly, or to her standards. After a while, I listen with half an ear because overall, my mother is GAINING weight and looking healthy. She's having no significant issues (other than the ones she creates in her own head) and THAT is why I feel confident in paying the enormous fees I pay to this facility every month.
Try to step back just a bit, and let things be. Unless, of course, you feel your mother is being truly mistreated in some way. And then you'd need to first contact the ED and then the Ombudsman if necessary to file a formal complaint. If it's just a personality quirk, then you may want to let it go.
All the best as you navigate this new & difficult territory for and with your dear mom.
I don't have a disliking for her personally. It's her skillset. My mom never complains, she's late stage AD. These are things I have witnessed myself.
For example: Today when I went to visit mom, she had a soiled diaper stuck in in pant leg at the ankle. Soaking wet and soiled, there's no way she could of gotten it where it was lodged on her own. I noticed as soon as I saw her, it was sticking out like a sore thumb. but she had on a clean pullup. My mom needs assistance changing...
These are all care issues, that don't happen with the other CGs at moms MCF just this 1 CG, who I don't think does her basic job responsibilities if she can get away with not doing them.
I suggest you speak with mgmt about the concerns you have with staff & allow them to fix it. But I would not make a promise I could not keep as far as assigning only one specific CG to a specific person all the time.