My 29 year old daughter has been a very selfish only Daughter since she was a small child I was a single mother that gave her everything she need it according to my means when I remarry I was able to paid for her college but she put me thru hell from 18 till 26 can't give details I am too ashamed to tell
Finally she graduated after 10 years instead of 4 I had to stop paying for all her expenses because I am a widow no money and 66 years old too depress too sad too hurt by her she still lives with me but gives me the minimum just for her food I am broke but she doesn't want to move out so I can sell or manipulates me by been nice (I clean the house and do the cooking all repairs etc also clean after her two dogs and walk them etc) I want to live a little by asking for a reverse mortgage at least I will not have to prey so much she makes excellent money but refuses to give me more for property taxes etc I know that means she will be out of inheriting the house free and clear
She can be very deceiving cutesy when she wants something from me but I am so disappointed I just don't care just want to have no more money problems anymore
I can't afford even to move out of my own home or I would what shall I do?
She needs to carry her own weight. She needs to either pay the going rate for rent and board or to move out.
You need to start making decisions in your own best interest. You've raised a child alone. You remarried. You are widowed. Clearly you can take care of yourself. Start doing it.
But I think you know all this. If it helps to have outsiders tell you what you already know, I'll say it. Take charge of your own life.
ask her to leave for her own sake why cant parents realise that children like this will never learn to grow up and experience life and the reality of life how on earth do you expect her to be a responsible adult when youre still changing her diaper?
My sister has let her 27yr old daughter move home AGAIN after several times of her not paying a penny for food etc....... so i told my sister "reap what you sow".
You are not doing your daughter any favours and asking her for rent is not going to work out and you know it. She should be in her own apt making her own way and spoiling you for a change!
. Time to treat the kiddo like an adult. It might also help you to talk to a therapist about enabling and how to get YOUR life back focused on you. Good luck! Tell daughter to hire a dog walker or charge her $15.00 a day for 2 walks. That is what we pay when away from home all day.
he aint speakin to me right now and the silence is rapturous . he he
phsyc asked me a week ago if the tension with my son was causing duress . na , we'll slam heads as long as i live -- ill see to it ..