I am having trouble with getting my husband to shower for a while i would get everything ready help him into shower and he would wash now but now he will only stay in for a min. I had home health aide come but he refused her help. at adult daycare they have tried to shower him but got hostile I do not know what else to do
Clothes no longer need to be formal. Warm sweats and nightgowns with non slip washable slippers are adequate even to go to the Dr.
Allow an aging parent privacy. If they are not used to being naked do not force it.
Put a small toell round a female's shoulders and a washcloth over the genitals. if the patient can't wash their own genitals have them turn away from you and reach around or hold a towell up so they can wash behind it.
Talk about these problems with the patient's Dr and ask if there are medications that could be prescibed before a bath to keep them calm. If you have outside help try and get them to start small and work up to as full bath. maybe wash his feet the first time, help a male shave or give a female a back wash and massage. Above all keep the patient covered as much as possible, there is a reson it used to be called a "blanket bath"!!!!!!!!!!!!
You can only do your best but try and keep one step ahead.
I had a student I refused to let use my computer until he'd gotten himself clean. Grossly obese, it was awful.
I began saying it was my computer, if he was dirty he couldn't use it.
Then, he figured this out and he'd shower, but put on the same clothes. Sigh.
When Dad was in LTC, there was only one worker who could get him to shower.
It is difficult to figure out the barrier.
Although, we had one worker who stormed into his bedroom, before he went into LTC, and said, "OK. We're having a shower now!"
He said, "The hell we are!" He'd never met her. What bedside manner....