Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
Due to you asking if she had been turned. Was it wrong for me to get attitude with her? This caused huge problem and words exchange don't expect her back.
Being a paid caregiver myself, I am there to meet the clients needs... if she needs to be turned, which is a good thing on any day, then I would do that.... talking to a family member like that is unacceptable..... if the family member is totally unreasonable, that is another matter.....but still would not handle it the way you described..... good riddance I say.... you are paying us to TAKE CARE of your parent....we do that, and anyone that has any sense knows a bed bound patient needs to be turned. Sorry you got one of the bad ones.
Sandy, was this person from an agency? If so, call the agency and describe, as unemotionally as you can, what happened and ask them to send another aide. If you hired privately, then you need to look around again and get good recommendations from friends, family, church people, etc. Aides who can't explain what they are doing and why they are doing it, not needed with our loved ones!
'Too picky' is a red rag to me, though I agree that Pam's question is a good one. Though actually, even if - let's say, just for the sake of argument - you said something that made the caregiver thought she was being 'got at' I still think that, as the professional, it's up to her to reassure you and not up to you to tread on eggshells around her perceptions.
Yes, tone is important; and yes, I hope we are all - at least on a good day - well-mannered people who are careful about how we speak to others. But… "too picky…"
My SIL used exactly that phrase when we were discussing respite care for my mother. It's horse poo. There is no such thing as 'too picky' when you're discussing standard care procedures.
What would I say to her? What I did say was "define 'too picky', please." Only that's slightly cheating because, again, tone of voice is everything and I have to admit that mine not have been completely warm and cuddly. What would I say to a paid caregiver? Probably, as nicely as I could manage, "excuse me? There are things we need to make sure get done, and I'm checking. Is that too picky?"
I find it much easier to be constructive and keep my temper with outsiders than I do with family members; but with this lady you don't expect back, it's up to you. If you think she's basically good and you'd like her back, call the agency and explain there was a misunderstanding and you'd like to clear the air (I don't think you need to apologise - unless you went on to accuse her of being ugly and having bad taste in music or something). If you can't stand her at any price, then good riddance.
Well, if you got an attitude with the caregiver there's probably a better way to discuss your mom's care with her then putting her on the defensive. Even if the caregiver wasn't performing to your satisfaction there are better ways of going about speaking to her about it than copping an attitude. And like the others commented, the tone you used with the caregiver speaks volumes.
However, a caregiver should never say to the family that they're being too picky. It's very unprofessional. She may think that but while in your home caring for your mother she should be giving 100% and keeping her thoughts about you to herself.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Yes, tone is important; and yes, I hope we are all - at least on a good day - well-mannered people who are careful about how we speak to others. But… "too picky…"
My SIL used exactly that phrase when we were discussing respite care for my mother. It's horse poo. There is no such thing as 'too picky' when you're discussing standard care procedures.
What would I say to her? What I did say was "define 'too picky', please." Only that's slightly cheating because, again, tone of voice is everything and I have to admit that mine not have been completely warm and cuddly. What would I say to a paid caregiver? Probably, as nicely as I could manage, "excuse me? There are things we need to make sure get done, and I'm checking. Is that too picky?"
I find it much easier to be constructive and keep my temper with outsiders than I do with family members; but with this lady you don't expect back, it's up to you. If you think she's basically good and you'd like her back, call the agency and explain there was a misunderstanding and you'd like to clear the air (I don't think you need to apologise - unless you went on to accuse her of being ugly and having bad taste in music or something). If you can't stand her at any price, then good riddance.
"Too picky." Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr….
However, a caregiver should never say to the family that they're being too picky. It's very unprofessional. She may think that but while in your home caring for your mother she should be giving 100% and keeping her thoughts about you to herself.