Tonight my mother demanded that I take her home. I told her that is was getting late and we would go first thing in the morning, which usually works, but def. NOT tonight! She was very aggressive and belligerent towards me. I did react with calmness and I tried to calm her by holding her hand and giving her a hug. She shoved me back telling me to get away from her. This happened when my older sister came by to visit. Thank goodness she managed to redirect her to an activity that I know she enjoyed. But, my sister can't always be here, she works through out the day and stops by to check on our mother at night before she goes home... She is taking medications to calm her, but it doesn't seem to be helping at all. I am at my wits end here. Don't think I can go on much longer :'(
I learned this through great tears - and it was hard at first - but got much better. Fortunately, mom has made peace with God and is no longer cranky. Thank God!
Never get mad at her. I am sure in the past she has had much patience with you. It is your turn now. Relax enjoy your mom while you have her.
It's ok to feel frustrated, it's ok to be upset when your mom comes at you in an aggressive way. If we want to keep using the same "logic", when your mom raised you you were not demented. You were not unreasonable. You were not the size of an adult with the strength of an adult while you had outbursts.
Remember, you are human dealing with someone with a diseased brain that is unable to be rational. On top of this, you love your mom which makes things all the more confusing. Do NOT beat yourself up if you feel upset or like you're at the end of your rope. It is normal to feel that way and frankly, I'd think there was something wrong with you if you didn't feel like you were at your wit's end. We're not saints.