I have not got much help! My mom has too much in her IRA for any assistance,and will not let me hire someone to help me.we had a goold done,which was a total waste of time.How do you all deal with every day being the same..no help in sight and I am running out of hope.
Sorry you are feeling hopeless but that is Normal because this is such an insane situation.
Listen to Sonya! That's what we have to do with elderly is stand our ground and do what has to be done regardless of what they say. They are not the only people in the equation!
1tried knows too. You have to have time to yourself or you will go bonkers!
lovbob
One of the hardest parts of caregiving no one talks about, is your always working outside your comfort zone. A plethora of quilt, inadequacy, and fear overwhelm you. Don't let it. Confront your mother, tell her why you feel like crap when she behaves a certain way. Start a dialogue, maybe she has fears and pain causing this behavior. Don't accept it as normal.
Or nursing home. Talk to someone about
restbite care. They could take care for
A couple hours to a couple days. This
Was created to help give rest or backup
Plans for care, for those caring for their
Family.
Good luck
Do you have any siblings? Tell them you need time to yourself, please take Mom out for a few hours. Can you afford to hire outside help? Does your area have adult day care, or an elderly center, check the blue pages of phone book, or go to your local library. My librarian points me in the right direction on obtaining help. Good luck, make this happen, you need it.
I found a spot in my local nature center, I hike to my bench; sit under the oak trees, and watch bluebirds frolic on the fence. I allow the beauty to lull me, and i thank God for all my blessings. It soothes me and I feel at peace. Home is where you find it.
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