My friend is a non smoker and her caregiver smokes in front of her and she ask her caregiver nicely not to smoke in front of her due to asthma and the caregiver said that people are being too judgmental and should my friend find a different caregiver who will respect her
See if your friend needs help with this as far as calling the agency or whoever is sending them out to care for your friend.
Is this an agency caregiver?
At 72 I still cannot believe the entitlement of some people.
I wish her luck in her decision .
Yes, workers can be hard to find (though bank branches around here usually close because so many people use ATMs). But fewer and fewer people smoke, and a non-smoker ought be no more difficult than a smoker.
NOTE: It is very easy to tell another person what to do. It's another thing to do it. As an example, we had a small group of caregivers take care of my mother until she died, probably two years. Sometimes I would come into the den where my mother was lying in her chair to find one of the caregivers cracking and eating nuts on my mother's midsection. She did bother to put some newspaper down. Why didn't I just kick her patootie out the door? I don't know. I probably will never figure it out. As it turned out, the woman who was the ostensible owner of this little agency stole money and, of all things, eggs. At one point, we escorted the whole bunch out the door and hired an agency. The agency is not a gift from heaven but at least they aren't stealing eggs.