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(things I consider bad for him) - With my burst of anger, am I considered a danger to him? - Do I have mental problems? I really feel bad when I lose my temper and do regret it totally.
Yusuf, perhaps you are burning out? I read in your profile that you are an only (like me) so lots of expectations and pressure. It is wise of you to take this concern out beyond yourself. You should look into respite care of some sort so you can have a break and get refreshed. It is a daily discipline to make yourself look at your father with different eyes than in the past. He can't help what he does anymore, his brain is broken. Many on this site recommend videos by Teepa Snow to help understand dementia better. Give it a try, as well as try to give yourself a break.
Broken brains are hard to acknowledge.. But try to be less angry, and do not correct him so much.. One day, you may realize he has stopped talking,, that happened with my mom.. I corrected her one time too many, and that was it.. Speechless.. Never spoke after that...It was so very sad.. I can't really forgive myself for this and many other things that come along with this disease... It's not fun, and do not go down that road of guilt. I have, and I can't get out. She is gone now, and I still carry this guilt.. SO DON'T DO THAT... It's not good for anyone.. Be understanding to what is happening to him. He cannot help it. Do not try to make him see what he is doing wrong.. He will not understand. This is your NEW NORMAL. THIS IS HIS NEW NORMAL. You start from here.. and you understand you are there to love this human, and care for this human, HE IS YOUR DAD... THIS IS HIM NOW.. He will not change back to what he was before.. he will keep going forward in the path of dementia. So be kind and understanding, he is not doing anything intentionally. He is your dad, love your dad, and be kind. Take a break, take him, well, not now covid.. try to get him into adult daycare so both of you can take a moment away from eachother. He probably needs to as much as you do.
Does the burst of anger include physical violence? If so, you shouldn’t be his caregiver any longer. In my state even with coronavirus nursing homes are ordered to intake residents. If you no longer can manage caregiving without so much anger that it scares either of you, it’s time to look into your father having another place to live. You’ll still be involved in caregiving, overseeing his care in a facility. He truly can’t change or help his behaviors. The only one capable of change is you. Good advice already given for looking into making those changes. Take small breaks, go outside and get fresh air. You both deserve to live safely and without so much anger, I wish you the best in making changes
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Be understanding to what is happening to him. He cannot help it. Do not try to make him see what he is doing wrong.. He will not understand.
This is your NEW NORMAL. THIS IS HIS NEW NORMAL. You start from here.. and you understand you are there to love this human, and care for this human, HE IS YOUR DAD... THIS IS HIM NOW.. He will not change back to what he was before.. he will keep going forward in the path of dementia. So be kind and understanding, he is not doing anything intentionally. He is your dad, love your dad, and be kind. Take a break, take him, well, not now covid.. try to get him into adult daycare so both of you can take a moment away from eachother. He probably needs to as much as you do.