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Ive read the answers regarding christmas presents for loved ones but id like to know. Since most of the caregivers on this site are taking care of parents and I am taking care of my husband am I more able to give our loved ones 100.00 each for christmas than children caregivers are? Does that make any sense?

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My suggestion may not sit well with others, but heck, it's Christmas Eve and I'm feeling generous. Take that money and you and your husband splurge on yourselves! Caregiving is the most and worst rewarding "job" you will have, but who pays us? Others can manage with a nice card, but the memories you and your husband share perhaps for the last Christmas will be priceless to you. Merry Christmas!
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That sounds very generous and you are sweet to still consider everyone. My parents quit giving years ago for holidays. It became sporadic, sometimes we got $50 each, other yrs nothing. We were grateful and didn't think about those missed yrs. for awhile, my husband and I would give the kids money out of our pocket "from the grandparents" so they wouldn't know.

As adults, we all understand how elders really need to conserve funds for long term care needs as they age. If you can afford it and you normally give in that range, by all means do so. If it is a burden, just cut back or only give to grandchildren.
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You are exceptionally generous. There are penalties only if you apply for Medicaid and they ask where all your money went.
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I had to cut way back on what I spent on gifts while caring for my husband with dementia. Wow! Chronic illnesses (my husband had dementia) are EXPENSIVE!! But if you can afford it, spend what you like on gifts. Look ahead a bit, though. Will your resources see you through this journey? If there is any chance you are going to run out of money before he runs out of disease, then you do need to have some concern about possibly applying for Medicaid.
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If you usually give that much, it probably won't be a problem. Suddenly starting to give away lots of money would raise an alarm.
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I am a caregiver of my grandpa. I usually spend within my means. Give what you can but don't break your bank either.
I didn't give monetary gifts, I gave edible gifts. Yesterday, I gave the staff who works at the adult daycare where I take my grandpa, gift bags full of treats.
I put in each gift bag - 1 greeting card, 1 small juice bottle, 2 packs of little debbie's christmas cakes, 3 candy canes, pizza snacks, handful of hershey's chocolate candies, handful of holiday kit kat candies. I like putting tissue paper over the gifts to conceal it and to make the gift bags look more appealing.

Make sure you give a gift for yourself and your husband as well.
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