I'm kind of pissed at my therapist and don't know what to do. I have session tomorrow and it long overdue. I went through a crisis about 10 days ago and was ready to blow a gasket. I texted her on 11/23 and she was too busy to see me. Her earliest available appt. was 12/2.
Since I wasn't thinking about harming myself or anybody, it didn't qualify as an emergency. They have urgent care for a fever, why not urgent care for mental issues? 1-800-counselor?
There is an online therapist service but my insurance doesn't pay for it and its $400 a month!
What am I supposed to do when I'm going through my next crisis? That's the question I want to ask my therapist but I don't know what to say. I'm trying to plan ahead. It helps to have an emergency plan, just in case.
I used to run to my mom for advice. I could always call her and she knew just what to say to make me feel better. My wife was incapacitated this last time and I couldn't ask her for help. Actually, she was the one driving me nuts! LOL
I think "incapacitation" is a serious situation in and of itself. You might also want to try to figure out how to get used to your wife's situation if it's permanent, and think of her needs as well. I'm guessing she has some serious issues well beyond less sex.
I do agree that he needs to reach out to find additional sources of dealing with his concerns, however, I see a "yes, but .... no help available." This is the foundation for a thread of a different sort.
We all have to change and adjust as we age, and sometimes those adjustments push us way beyond our comfort levels. That's just life.
frustrated2016, I did check the local hospital and talked to 2 patient advocates. No luck on caregiver support groups, that's why I'm online.
Guilty as charged. I use women as sounding boards. Yes, I at times I feel pretty bad and it helps to let it out. I was taught at a very early age that men don't cry. Suck it up! That's probably why I prefer women therapists. My dad is still living at 84 years old but I don't talk to him about my problems. And I miss my mother and 2 grandmothers. They've passed on. That leaves mw with my wife and when she is incapacitated, who is going to listen to my troubles with a sympathetic ear? I don't see anything wrong with reaching out for moral support, a helping hand when you need one.
The psychiatrist explained that there is a shortage of doctors and therapists in the mental health field. More people now have insurance and can afford the services they might have put off when they were uninsured. If someone is in crisis they simply admit them for in-patient care.
About the lack of sex with your wife: you are her caregiver so she must have some impairments. Tell us what those are, and why she turns you down. How was your sex life before you became her caregiver as well as her husband?