My mother is redoing her will. I am the sole caretaker with my husbands help. She lives with us 100%. Are there any pertinent clauses that should be in the will? I feel there should be some financial reimbursement as I utilize my sick leave and vacation leave while my sibling carries on without any use of his time. I have totaled up my FMLA time used last year and it came to about $5000 (hourly figures) of the days I utilized for her hospital stay and doctor visits.
Another reason for realtime compensation is that it often happens that there is nothing left for anybody to inherit, if the parent needs costly medical care at the end of life. Now one child has made all the sacrifices and nobody gets any compensation.
Especially when there is more than one child, pay-as-you-go is the only fair approach, in my opinion.
Your mother doesn't know how much longer she will live and how much more care you will be providing. She doesn't know if she will need a care center before she dies. How can she determine today what might be just compensation for you in 5 years? In 10 years?
I guess I'm not answering your question. If this is the way your mother wants to handle it, I'm sure her lawyer can help her with the wording. Me? I'd have the lawyer help draw up a personal care agreement.