I haven't been a caregiver for very long so pardon my question if its a repeat on this forum. I am living in the upstairs of my mom (she has alzheimers) and step dads house. I new on the scene, less than a month. I have learned a lot in a short period thanks to this forum and support from the allzheimers association. My step dad and I are taking care of mom. He has been doing this for a long time now and deserves a break more than anyone. He had scheduled a road trip alone to a vietnam vet gathering in Texas (we are in New York) when he knew I was going to be here. He will only be gone a week. He should go. He deserves to go and have some time with his vet buddies. My mom is is pissed off that I am here most days and even more pissed when he reminded her that he is going in a few weeks. He is now thinking of canceling because he is afraid that she will get mad or afraid and run or cause a problem. This is why i am here. There are people that I can call if she does. I am going to check with a counselor today and see what she thinks on how to handle this. I thought I would check with you guys and get your thoughts. I know you been in the trenches too.