I have health problems too. My mum of 83 recently had accident which the ball joint fractured through the socket of r/pelvis the cup had slipped years ago on her hip replacement, walking limited accident happened on 19/9/14, came home after 3 weeks in hospital, only home a week when she made me ill had break down in docs surgery, he came to see her told her it's either hospital or care home, she went in hospital, been in 1 month, now being given my orders by her hospital consultant that I have to remove all my crafting items which are electrical & cost a fortune to save for, I have cared for mum for over 20 yrs, but here in UK that does not count for anything, & to add to this she going to have carers 4 times a day & has mental health issues, bed downstairs + a commode in a small living room where we eat are food at a small dining table.
I am so stressed, told persons are Docs they not happy, friend rang and they are trying to say I agreed to her coming home, yes if she could get upstairs not bed in living room. I know this sounds hard I will tell them If she comes home bed in living room etc even for 2 weeks we all know that Housing Associations are not going to move that fast now it just a month from Christmas. if the carer's want to look after her then that's going to included everything..Shopping feeding her, washing her( walk in shower is up stairs), NO washing machine to do her washing and they can cook/ clean the room as well, & I will not be getting up during the night to come downstairs for her to go to toilet etc
I have Severe Chronic Asthma, Diabetic, Fibromyalgia, Arthritis & balance & hard of hearing & other problems etc.. so if the cold kills me what she going to do then. she will end up in a nursing home, do I have grounds to use her POA for Health, already using POA for finances.. HELP HELP need urgently
Do the right thing for your mom and find a suitable nursing home for her immediately.
she told me even if she does come home with a stair lift fitted, with her mental state she will probably forget how to use it causing more problems..
Got meeting Wednesday(UK) with the hospital, been told to be adamant that her health
care mum needs now & future she should going into a nursing home for full 24 hr care..
because she is not going to improve can only get worse.
once again Thank You All.
Doc useless, gave me sleeping tablets, he siding with hospital, I have done nothing
but be in floods of tears after meeting yesterday, everyone on mum's side, so asked
if mum could go in nursing home until a chair lift could be fitted then, they and mum
said no.
So today I have given them another alternative, she can come home with bed down
stairs in front room but I will not be doing anything at all for her, so they better think
about what happens when carer's go at 9 pm at night do not come back till the
next morning at 9.30 am,
As I will not be getting up in the middle of the night to her.. I know this sounds hard but
what do I have to do to get through to them !!I feel I can not cope anymore with her!!