I know my father has dementia which has included false memories/delusions and I think it's progressing.
Unfortunately, like most of them I guess, he doesn't think that it could possibly be his mind faltering.
It would be so much easier to care for him if he realized it's possbile his mind is playing tricks otherwise I fear it won't be too much longer before it's nursing home time and I'm sure I'll get negative comments for this but I'm not able to work in the workforce because of spinal problems that have me disabled. We've been helping each other out since he needs help (legally blind and almost deaf) while I've been trying to get my disability and/or find some source of income I could do from home.
If he ends up having to go to a nursing home before I can, I'll probably end up homeless since I'm sure that even nursing home costs even through the VA would take most of his money.
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understand the individual has Alzheimer's Disease, be aware of the danger, and treat the person with patience. Remember , Confabulation is common. A person will say things to people containing information that is blatantly false, tell of actions that inaccurately describe history, background and present situations. Adding to possible danger is the answers are coherent, internally consistent, and appear relatively normal.
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I really think these vivid dreams he has are transferring over to memory so he thinks they're real. I've read that that sometimes happens with dementia.
And he doesn't just think my mom's in Alabama, he thinks she's living there with another guy. And I'm sure the FBI aspect of it came when we moved up here to Virginia just outside of Quantico.
He's only brought up that one once since that day so I guess our conversation is sticking in his mind because he doesn't want to end up in a home.
I'm just hoping I have enough time before he has to go to one or something else takes him before he's a babbling idiot. I'd hate for my last memories of him to be in THAT of mental capacity.
The other night I thought I might have actually gotten through to him because I tol him that if can't acknowledge that it's possible it might be that his dreams are getting moved to his memory when he wakes and keeps wanting to bother the police and FBI that they'll end up taking him away and putting him in a nursing home which I'm trying to not let happen. I asked him 'did you expect to live your whole life and your memory to stay the same as it was when you were 20 or 40? He said no. I said you were already diagnosed with slight dementia and they're supposed to test to see how far it's progressed and he said Why didn't anyone tell me? I said why would I try to keep you from mom (he thinks she's till alive and living in another state) or keep you from money you think you have in some account (he thinks he has a Chase account with deposits being put in from a "world lotto" he won)? It would only benefit you if it were true.
He didn't really say anything the rest of the night and didn't bring it up the next day but today he tells me he wishes the FBI would hurry up and get here (he thinks they are going to take him to mom) so apparently he still can't accept it might be his memories are screwed up.
I know the usually don't go away but I was hoping he could at least consider it was possible.
I don't know how much longer he's got before a nursing home is the only option.
I'm beginning to think it's going too be too soon and I'll end up homeless.
Do you have a case worker? It sounds like you need to have a talk with him/ her about your housing situation.