It's so hard to know I can't solve all his problems in rehab. Clothes too big or too tight. I keep trying. Lack of sleep. First snoring roommate.. that fixed. Two days later bed is too sensitive beeps every time he moves. Very few beds that don't beep. May not have kne to give him. Finding rides to and from rehab every other day.
What I do is try to ignore it the best I can. The bad thing is she has now limited herself to about two foods and one restaurant with her growing list of dislikes. (Yes, it drives me crazy, but I try not to let it be MY problem. I do the best I can.)
I'm assuming he needs clean clothes for his rehab sessions. Go to the thrift store and buy cheap but clean clothes. Get him a few different sizes. One is bound to fit.
If it's too difficult for you to visit because you need to get a ride back and forth, cut down on the number of visits. Does he have a cell phone with him? Can you talk to him over the phone?
The chair alarms are attached to the chair and to the person so if the "tag" or "key" comes out of the unit it beeps. The bed alarms are just pads that are on the bed and they are just pressure only.
As to what "kne" is I think it is a typo and should be "one"
Everything doesn't have to be perfect. Has he always been a complainer? If not, then I might be more concerned, but if he's coming up with multiple complaints everyday, I'd set priorities and let the unimportant stuff go. But, if you are already anxious and a worrier, that will likely not be easy for you. If your doctor says your pills are working, I'd challenge her if I was overwhelmed with anxiety and worry.
Has hubby's size changed? If not take in clothes that he usually wears.
Hospitals love to label people as fall risks. One hospital I was in only allowed me to wear a yellow gown as that signified "fall risk" that and a bright orange extra wrist band. I also suffered the bed and chair alarm but it can have a good side. if the call bell isn't answered promptly just get out of bed and they come running. They can actually turn them off so they don't have to change the bed.
In your husband's case I would be hesitant to turn off the alarm as he is already disabled and you don't want to be coping with a broken hip.
Don't be in too much hurry to bring hubby home make the most of your currently leisure time to relax and do some things that give you joy.
The one thing you can do is to give him tons of sympathy and understanding. Express regret that his bed problems can't be solved yet. Tell him you see how bad he feels because he isn't getting enough sleep. Acknowledge that his life SUCKS bigtime right now. Do not suggest that he has ANYTHING to be grateful for.
You will continue to strive to solve his problems, but ease up on yourself a lot. What he needs is someone to witness his misery and remind him that he is not alone and forgotten. If he can see and receive your compassion, then you are a success, at least in that area.
The problems at rehab. Husband isn't getting the sleep he needs. Its so frustrating. His second day he got a roommate who snored loudly. Two days later they find a new room for him. He gets more sleep for a night then complains the bed beeps every time he moves around. It is designed to let nurse know if hes is trying to get out of bed. Very few beds made different so wont beep. They would see if ciuld get one. Didn't get one. I come back two days later. New roommate. His wife is very hard of hearing and calls every few hours. He almost shouts so she can hear. She is older and doesn't like being alone. At night he curses. He does I've heard him. They said they would try to find him a third room or get him earplugs. This is biggest problem. Then he say his own clothes are too tight. But I buy new stuff not knowing proper size and its too big. I get joging pants. He says waist band is too tight. A lot of frustration.
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