My husband is 62 years old and has dementia/alz, his heart stopped 10 years ago this February 5th. He suffered a brain injury that resulted in the dementia. I don't treat him any differently but I am all given out from being his caregiver. He refuses to allow any help in the home and thinks that there's nothing really wrong with him. I'm the only caregiver because our children are grown and gone. He has a sister that helped in the past when I had to travel for work but she now has a disabled son and can't help me any more. His mother lives in Dlelware and is elderly and can't travel or lend a hand. I'm trying to hang on but I don't see any end in sight.
Any help will be greatly appreciated.
If you haven't already got household help, such as cleaning and laundry and if you are not already getting cooking help via frozen dinners and restaurant take out, I suggest you start there. You'll be better able to cope with the tasks for your husband if somebody takes scrubbing the toilets out of your hands.
As for sex, I have nothing to offer but commiseration. Do mention his increased libido to his doctor. I told my counselor once that I was sad that our sex life was over. She suggested seeing sex counselors at the University, who could help us get things working again. I was aghast! "You certainly misunderstood me. I love my husband as much as I ever have, but it would be like having sex with a six-year-old, or with my grandfather."
My heart goes out to both of you.
Regarding your hubby's need for sex, go to the top right corner of this screen and you will see "Search Site"... type in sex... it will take you to articles and questions/answers by others who write on the forums. It seems strange how Alzheimer's/Dementia can cause this sometimes uncontrollable urge in males.