My mom has MS, is 69, and was just given too high of a dose too quickly of muscle relaxers that she was sensitive to and had a bad reaction. She is now bedridden and unable to move. She can lightly squeeze my hand and can't speak. On Saturday I saw her and she was going around in her scooter, talking and playing with her grandchildren. Now She cannot swallow and has not eaten or drank anything since Saturday, Sunday is the day the reaction happened. She had an iv fluid bag at the ER yesterday. Now the nurse and dr are pushing for her to go to a hospital about an hour away to see if she can more help. Her living will states that she doesn't want an iv or feeding tubes. I ask her if she wants an iv and she doesn't squeeze my hand yes. This breaks my heart so much. I see single tears come out of her eyes when i tell her I love her. Please reassure me I am doing the right thing by not sending her. My mom and I are the only family where we are. I have three kids and my husband is deployed and I am having a hard time. As I am sure my mom is. I can't stay with her like I want. Please give me advice. I feel like she is so alone. She is in a nursing home and hospice should start helping soon.
Thank you for answering back! It is good to hear when at first we think there is no hope, and then there is improvement. With a difficult diagnosis and continuing challenges, I wish both you and your mother many blessings!
I'm all for following the Advance Directive, but, if the patient is competent and alert, then, it's up to them and you don't have to rely on the Advance Directive. Maybe, I'm missing something.
Please let us know how you are doing
If you able to sleep at night see what first thought comes to you when you awake - that small inner voice will be guiding you
I wouldn't want to live in a bedridden state either.
This must be such a hard time for you, especially with your husband overseas. I hope you can find some peace as you go through this difficult time.
1. Are the side effects permanent or temporary?
2. Is there an antidote or counteracting agent to the muscle relaxer she was given?
3. What do the doctors say about her condition and possibility of recovery?