My brother had a POA for my parents, both Alzheimer patients. My father died two years ago and mom died in June. My brother took a large sum of money from their accounts without notifying anyone. I suspect there are more funds missing. Is this a crime? How do I handle? I have refused to sign the Probate papers until this is resolved.
On the other hand I perform all care and my sisters feel no compunction to raise a hand to help and one lives with us. So if they have the nerve to complain to me about how much money I have spent, the fight will be on. They are receiving an income, I'm not, they are paying into a pension plan, I'm not, I am caring for our mother, because they choose not to. I am not throwing my Mom's money away I am saving it, but now i wonder for what, if she should need to go into a nursing home down the road it will all have to be spent and there will be no inheritance anyway!
I too provide statement copies and an expense report to both siblings. One tried to accuse me of stealing from my mother, and tried to pull the other sibling into the web of lies. I was alerted to this by the second sibling and immediately told the first one that I had never taken a dime but had spent thousands of my own dollars to update Mom's home, if she wanted proof, hire an accountant and I will pull out all the documents. Funny thing is this sibling is the only person who EVER took money from Mom and NEVER repaid a cent!
I have nothing to hide and can live with a clear conscience!