My Dad got sick a few years ago and was put pain meds . He is still on the meds and his wife took him to a doctor that said he is incompetent ( which he is not the meds make him loopy) She now has poa and has put him in a care home and has taken his pension. He is not incompetent it is just the meds which he wants off of. He wants to get out of the care home and live with one of us. ( He wants to divorce her) He wants to change his poa to one of us as well. How do we do this if she had him rendered incompetent?
A neurologist is the best person to check out your dad. He or she could adjust the medications to see what is helping and what is hurting. Then, a proper diagnosis can be made. Perhaps a brain scan will show deterioration - or not. If you are going to fight this legally, you'll need all of the facts.
I hope that this can be settled so that everyone's best interest is addressed.
Take care,
Carol
Also, please spend some time reading on this site. Lots of folks think that taking dad/mom home is going to be delightful and often it devolves into a nightmare. Just make sure you understand what you're getting into.
Make sure you've got both sides of this story, and not just from dad. Before you do anything to change his living situation, I would have him checked out by a neurologist who specializes in dementia. People can be "sharp as a tack" and still have dementia, which is, after all, progressive.
Sometimes the person who is in the nursing facility believes they are fine and that others have done things against them. But if a kind soul gets them out, they quickly understand why the family could no longer take care of them. Doctors do not tend to declare someone incompetent without reason. As the others say, it is best to learn all the facts before doing anything. Otherwise it could end up doing a lot of harm.
It is what ever is in the mind of the person That Day. If I Could not laugh at times - I would be crying forever . Just remember this dementia is not going to get better - There is no cure & unfortunately they are not the person you knew!
There is no way I could let my sister live with me .I lover her dearly but from one day to the next her personality changes.The best place is a nursing home for your Dad.My opinion only.