I think my Dad's lifetime affinity for fixing things now makes him want to take things apart, then he messes them up, rendering them unusable. He has taken apart several clocks that now don't work. He's in a nursing home and we had family pictures on the wall. He started taking apart the picture frames and ended up cutting his hand.
I'm wondering if there are possibly toys I could get him to satisfy his desire to take things apart and put them back together - like Legos, Tinker Toys, or something of that nature. Any suggestions?
There's another thread on here about a spouse who is sooo fixated on his gardens that he's driving his spouse to drink. One of our wonderful contributors said (badly paraphrased) "It is remarkable that he has found SOMEthing to help him deal with his dementia." (Again, terrible paraphrase, but hopefully you get the idea.)
Help him feed his bliss. It may be all he has...
Perhaps pick up inexpensive items from the thrift store for him to "fix". Others have suggested organizing and sorting things, maybe take him a bucket of nuts and bolts to match and sort. He may like the building toys you suggested, especially if you give him a simple project to make with them, even if he isn't really able to complete it. Puzzles? Simple games?
I've found that when I visit and I'm doing little repairs, trimming trees, cleaning up in the garage our roles have reversed. He's now the small boy following me around wanting to help. So I create stuff for him to do, wind up the extension cord, sort out the red and yellow nuts, go through the sockets sets and organize them. He doesn't do any of it very well but I never correct him unless he's going to get hurt or make a really huge mess of something. But it gives him a nice feeling of accomplishment and of being useful.
I was thinking if you or other family members are able to visit and spend a little time, bring in an old clock and let him putter, maybe Legos and big wooden puzzles would work, old erector set even. Anything you can think of to ask him to "fix" would make him feel good. Even when he makes a mess of it tell him how nice it is and thank him for helping.
And good luck with finding projects to occupy and perhaps challenge your husband.
I've read on the forums here something about a "tinker box", but he might try to take that apart, too :P Maybe others here might have some ideas.
I like the idea of Legos and other toys that he can work with. Perhaps you can also find something cheap at charity stores, some old clocks that he could take apart but wouldn't hurt if they weren't put back together again.
Organizing screws and nails by size and type might be helpful as well.
My father just bought for his great grandsons some round peg/square peg fit in the holes type of toy and another toy that helps build dexterity and spatial reasoning. You might try toy shops to see what toys are available that your father could build and take apart again.
As Maggie, suggests, help him with these projects and let him cling to past glories and challenges.
He's trying to keep his mind active, so do whatever you can to help him.
From my experience, things that sound like they would work, might not, because they still require certain skills that the patient may not possess. And some of the patients might not be left unattended with small pieces, as they may ingest them.
I would see if the person can engage in the activity without direct supervision. If not, you might see if the staff or some other person could take the item with them and supervise the activity. From my experience, it's not likely for a dementia patient to just pick up an item and work on it without direction, though, I'm sure that the person's degree of progression factors into that.
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