Mama is diabetic. They are not taking care of themselves or the house. I think they're going to accidentally kill themselves or someone else. He is on major pain meds and still driving. She refuses to see that he needs help. She refuses to let anyone else take care of her and he can't do it. I think maybe she can take care of herself when she isn't depressed but she often is and there is no way she can handle him. He is 6ft 4inches and she is 5ft 2inches. They are both falling a lot. My sisters and I don't know who to call or what to do.
At some point you have to protect them from themselves. There may be a crisis that drives the action or it just very clear this can't go on. You may be at that point. I'm totally prepared for world war three when the time comes. I think you'd better man your battle stations.