He does not want me helping with her. He is 91 years old and we think he has dementia or Alzheimer's. My Mom does not need to deal with his anger right now. He has gotten mad at me and now won't even talk to me. She is starting treatment this next week and I need to be able to help her through all this.
Mom's cervical cancer is a stage IIIB and she is 84 years old. It has killed her appetite, that is the only symptom that she has had, and she has not eaten real food in a month. We met with the radiologist today and now her first treatment is bumped to April 7th. That's almost 2 more weeks without eating. We will just have to take one day at a time. They can't do surgery because of how the cancer has spread. I so appreciate all your good wishes and thoughts. I wish I had a magic wand...
I don't know what to do about your father until he is willing to receive help. Right now I would just concentrate on Mom and worry about Dad later.
The hard part is getting him to the doctor's to evaluate him. Do you think you can do that? Let us know how you are doing.