My 88 yr old Dad with stage 4 dementia and diabetes just thought the living room end table was a toilet. He pulled down his pants and Mom caught him. He told her to shut up and she persuaded him to go to use the real toilet in the bathroom 15 feet away. This is the first time he has done this. Thanks for any advice!
Unprovoked anger is a lousy side-effect of dementia. In his mind, it was ok to use the table as a toilet. There’s no rhyme or reason for it. Staying in constant contact with his doctor is very important. There are meds for every stage of dementia that can help.
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Your Dad may need more care than Mom can give. Medicaid has what they call a "Community spouse" thing. Basically, assets are looked at and split. Dads split would be spent down. Mom would be given enough to live. Depending on ur assets, you may need a lawyer versed in Medicaid to help you.