I live in another state! I'm challenged to find the right living condition for him. Brother has been providing some care but this is to much for him to handle and I believe he's in denial about dad's recovery. Feeling like I'm stuck in mud regarding keeping him at home or finding a facility. He now needs assistance, with clothing, bathing, etc. At odds with brother over the care he needs at this time!
Consider who can manage his care and advocate for him either locally or long distance. Do you want to do that?
There are options, depending on dads care needs such as in home caregiving or live in care if dad can afford and his needs can be met or he needs skilled nursing care in which NH is warranted.
Do your research. Narrow some options down and if NH is needed, enlist drs help in securing a bed for dad.
You may need to take time off from work to look at some places and get dad settled. Please consider, even if it's only supporting your brother in getting dad placed.
Someone does need POA...it's a MUST. I can't say it enough. You MUST get it if you don't already have it. Guardianship is expensive from what I've heard, but if getting POA at this point is impossible, then you must have guardianship. And yes, someone needs to talk to dad's doc, too...
I wish you and your dad and brother the best...this is no easy road...
Are you able to take some time off and visit with your dad and brother? Have some discussions with your brother? Is he in denial because he doesn't want to be the caregiver or because he just doesn't want to face it?
Until you and your brother can figure this out try to get some home healthcare caregivers in there with your dad to see to his daily needs. This will give you some breathing room to decide what's best.