Told him to call and cancel. He is mad about that too. I wrote just a few days ago about him "living" in my family room after a fall that took him to ER. It has been a month and he demanded to go back to his condo. My husband and I were so tired of arguing with him and having him pout. So we took him home.
Now this morning we were to tour the ALF where he was supposed to stay for 1 week while my family is on vacation. (He has no friends and I have no siblings.) Now this morning he says he is not going. He is a big man and I cannot force him into my car. He is quite cognitive for his 91 years, but has mobility issues and is a fall risk. He continues to argue with me about everything. I am tired of arguing with him.
I looked into home health care, but didn't pursue since he said 3 weeks ago he would go to ALF for 1 week. Now I don't have the energy or time to interview and set up home health care.
You might want to buy it yourself so you can get one of your choice. We investigated the kind that looks like the kind used for school lockers, with a u-shaped top that swings out. These fit over a door handle and sound great.
My father took one look at it, expressed concern, so I checked out the one I had bought and realized as Dad surmised that a bolt cutter could be maneuvered in to cut the u-shaped top, thus opening the box and giving someone access to the key inside. Bad deal.
So we bought a box that's screwed directly into the studs on the outside of the house, next to the front door. Dad's lock box also has a combination which can be changed as often as he likes, if in any event he needs to give it out to someone and we decide to change it later.
Make your plans and go, and enjoy yourself.
But I think I'd get a life alert pendant for him before going, just in case he does fall and can't reach a phone.
I love my dad, but sometimes don't like him very much. He has always been stubborn and argumentative, especially with me.
(https://www.agingcare.com/questions/dad-staying-demanding-to-go-back-to-condo-181757.htm). Didn't any of them work?
Apparently, if I understand the situation correctly, you did take him home back to his own condo but now he's refusing to leave.
Reading your last post and this one, I see the frustration building. Perhaps it's time to turn the tables and stop the manipulating that he's able to do as you try to find the best solution for him.
Tell him you've agreed to let him stay in the condo and leave it at that. See what he does. Maybe he'll agree to go to a facility temporarily, maybe not. But your frustration seems to be increasing and it seems pretty clear that he's not going to change his mind. So it seems to me there's a standoff here and neither of you are going to budge.