Dad wears Depends day and night but wont pee in the toilet. His Depends get filled and he has wet clothes and furniture. When we remind him he says he already went or I do use the toilet. We try to make it routine like before meals but he says I dont have to go, He refuses to change his Depends during the day. It's often difficult to get him to change them before bed. He wakes with wet clothes and bedding. (we do use bed pads to save the mattress). Any suggestions?
Yes, try a routine, usually after a meal, not prior. When in the bathroom run the water in the sink as that sound will make some people go.
Changing the Depends is a challenge for the much older generation that was raised during the Great Depression. They don't want to toss out a Depends until it it fully used.... [sigh].
Limit Dad's water in the evening to only at supper time, have him take his night time meds then. Then have him use the toilet just before going to bed.
Buy "disposable blue sheets" to use on chairs. You can buy seconds which are a lot cheaper then first quality.
With the elderly, compliance may happen sporadically. Expect nothing. Buy more Depends and be kind.When the people with dementia have a lucid moment they are heartbroken at their lack of control of so many things in their lives.
her diaper. In reading her medication side effects, I found this was a serious side effect of namenda. Since she is off that medication she goes more frequently. I usually take her to the bathroom an hour after meals and she sometimes sits for 15 minutes before she goes. I also get her up around 11 p.m and although her diaper is wet in the morning it is not enough to wet the bed. In addition the company that supplies the diapers gave her a brand called premium over night tranquility, and I use two of them. My mom is not mean but often acts like a stuborn 3 year old. I now realize, I am now the mother and must enforce the rules, with kindness and determination.
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