Dad lives alone. I am not his caregiver as I work full time & have a family to take care of. I help on the weekends and he has "aids" who help during the week. One of these girls is the daughter of my friend, who is doing me a huge favor by helping out my dad because it has been very difficult to find resources for the help he needs.
She has been helping out for about a month and I just recently learned about his "requests". Apparently he left cash on the table and she asked what it was for. He said that he would like to be able to walk around the house commando with no pants. She told him that it's his house and he can do what he likes. Then he offered her more money and said that he would like it if SHE would do the same. GROSS. I feel so terrible for her having to put up with crap like this.
I haven't confronted my dad yet, but I want to tell him that this is unacceptable and he'd better cut this s*it out. I believe he is lucid and understands what he is doing. In the past, he has had hallucinations and delusions. When his physical health is managed, this seems to be much better and I haven't seen signs of these things lately. His main symptoms of dementia currently are that he is forgetful, easily confused, has terrible judgement, and a lack of inhibitions.
He is also still considered legally competent to make his own decisions, which is why he's still at home. If I had my way he would absolutely be in a facility. He fights leaving his home tooth and nail and I fully believe that one reason is because he knows he wouldn't get away with his behavior in a facility.
I need help on approaching this subject with him. My hope is that he will be embarrassed, that he'll remember the conversation later, and hopefully control his behavior more in the future.