After seven years of challenging but fulfilling caregiving for my dad, he made a peaceful transition three months ago. I prepared for this. However, what has me in shock is the insensitive and cruel reactions of some friends. I haven't seen my so called best friend in the three months since he died. I'm only child and mom went first but few understand that. Many people avoid me now and my boyfriend hung up on me three days before Christmas and we haven't spoken since. I've tried to have little to no expectations but I feel very angry and shocked by some of this. I have a good life in many ways, I work on myself and feel I'm more than a label... More than an adult orphan. Hard to get thru grief when I feel like I'm losing more friends and the pain isn't understood. I was raised to have manners and say " I'm sorry for your loss." Some can't even muster that. Going to try a grief support group but nothing right now and it hurts sooo bad!!!!
Yes, I'd agree that you would expect your best friend and your boyfriend to be the most understanding of your feelings. Or at least the most interested in trying to understand them. So what's going on? Is the lack of contact with your best friend mainly your doing, or hers/his, or a bit of both? How were things going with your BF before that abrupt rift?
It sounds as though there is some sort of "Do Not Disturb" sign hanging round your neck. How it got there, quite possibly without your even being aware of it..?Maybe if we can think about that question, the answers to it might show a way forward?