My Father is currently in Rehab and refuses to participate in anything. He was diagnosed with dementia and dysphagia. He has anger issues. I have been taking care of him for three years. He been verbaly abusive and sometimes he tries to be physically. When I try to help him with anything he yells at me and throws things at me hes only 75 but everyone close to me says it time for a nursing home hes physically unable to take care f himself. I just cant separate the emotional part from the mental part of the decision. Anyone have any suggestion we tried the 24hr care giver he scares them all away. The Doctor called and said we need to decide if we want him to have a feeding tube because of his swallowing issues. Lost lots of weight 50 pds in 3 months.
Please consider this. You aren't giving up on him, you are just getting help. The in-home help folks you've gotten don't seem to be able to handle him, so you really do need a different care plan.
Good luck and please don't feel guilty. This is for him as well as you.
Carol